Perversity
'Tell me one thing. I have always wondered why a woman changes her surname to that of her husband's when she gets married.'
'Well, I don't think you would understand it.'
'Well, you know, you are the academic type. You live in the cold impersonal world of your books and journal articles. You types don't get one fundamental thing about life.'
'And what is that one thing?'
'Sacrifice, my dear, sacrifice. You don't understand the meaning of sacrifice. When a woman loves a man, she is willing to make these little sacrifices for his sake. Like changing her surname.'
'Hmm. That's interesting. Would you say that in this case the man loves the woman too?'
'Yes, probably.'
'So why can't he make this sacrifice and change his surname to that of his wife's? Why do women have to make these 'little sacrifices' all the time if not for the reason that they are trained from their childhood to look at the world as a sacrificial Crusade? It is almost as if every woman is out on a mission to declare to other women, 'My sacrifice is greater than yours!''
6 Comments:
At 31.5.05, :..M..: said…
Ah. And what about the man who cannot understand the concept of sacrifice?
It's more of a balance, that which has now rot in the hands of devious cognition - leading to useless games. Women scream out their sacrifices - a game of 'look what I'm doing for you.' A mere cry for acknowledgement and appreciation. Men utter a syllable less than one. Simple game of 'wooden leg'. 'Afterall, we are unresponsive people, n'est pas?'
Although, sacrifice, as a concept is rather self-defeating.
At 2.6.05, G Shrivastava said…
"'So why can't he make this sacrifice and change his surname to that of his wife's? Why do women have to make these 'little sacrifices' all the time if not for the reason that they are trained from their childhood to look at the world as a sacrificial Crusade?"
Oft have I asked this question to myself and to others - why can't the man change his name for a change? Why must a woman change her name(and it isnt always just the surname) to show her devotion to the man - does it really bring in true devotion?
But I can't agree with "It is almost as if every woman is out on a mission to declare to other women, 'My sacrifice is greater than yours!''"
How many of them have the choice really to decide whether or not they will change their names? And ever noticed the kind of adjectives attached to women who don't? In a soceity where patriarchy is as ingrained in our systems as breathing is, an act such as this is almost akin to blasphemy for most.
At 4.6.05, Anonymous said…
Where I come from women do not change their names to that of their husbands when they marry.
At 4.6.05, Anonymous said…
Where I come from women do not change their names to that of their husbands when they marry.
At 4.6.05, The Transparent Ironist said…
I wish all women came from that place too...
At 5.6.05, Anonymous said…
Good point, about this last-name business. John Lennon did that in the early 70s, changing his name to John Ono Lennon.
Regards,
Krishna
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